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Christy writes at Christy’s Coffee Break about Senior Thrown Out Of Prom For Too Revealing Dress - Would You Have Let Her In Or Given Her The Boot?

How skimpy is too skimpy is the question on people’s minds

Oh, my goodness. The girl shows up in a skimpy dress, the school officials tell her she violates the school dress code. For some reason the article on BreakingNews.com doesn’t cover why the girl is still there, but the school officials call the cops. The girl is escorted from the premises (a Marriott hotel) in handcuffs. I assume led away by the police, unless her boyfriend is kinky, really prepared, and weird.

Two things. First, the Prom is ostensibly a school function. Why a school would be involved, except as a community service, is a question some schools have asked - and dropped their proms. Anyway, at a school function, why is any student permitted the audacity and disrespect of contesting school officials? I don’t care if the people involved were right or wrong, unless they are acting to harm someone, they get the benefit of my doubt. At least until their actions can be reviewed. But it won’t be students doing a peer or board review. At least, not if you want kids to grow up to live peacefully and productively in society. First rule of parenting - don’t reward bad behavior. Arguing with teachers (i.e. talking back “your mouth is moving”) is disrespectful. I don’t care how much you pay for the dress, how much you think you have invested in effort, etc. Pay attention, get it right, keep your head down, learn what you can. Answer when called on. Do everything in your power to enable the teacher/parent/chaperon to accomplish their task the best way possible.

Next - the dress. There are places to go naked. Organizations exists, family-oriented nudist recreation, camping, hot springs, etc. Places with strict rules against sexual conduct, well enforced. If you want to show so much skin that you raise questions in those about you, you are acting out. What you really want is a strip club, and you want to be performing. You are hiding behind a sexual identity instead of growing as a person. Instead of skin, concentrate on keeping your honor intact (and I am not talking about chastity, although that may apply, too), your character including respect, honesty, and discipline. Learn the difference between humor and joy, and work to increase the joy in your life and the lives around you. (Hint: There has to be pain to have humor. Pranks and humor are often forms of bullying or victimizing.)

Not only that, but any guy you attract by flashing boobs or skin will jump at the next girl flashing boobs or skin, and the one after that, too. Get a guy because you are respectful and disciplined, and 1) you have much less competition; and 2) you will both be secure in your lives and less affected by temptations. That is the choice: Get a guy to keep, or a flashy guy you hold onto until something else catches his eye.

For myself, I would recommend that proms be restricted to school uniforms. Stop rewarding bad behavior - horrendously expensive clothes that lead thoughts in sexually oriented directions. Turn the picture around - we want to form secure families, then introduce sex to make babies. Modern proms are derived from the ‘Coming Out’ debutante balls of the rich and exclusive - mating ceremonies originally intended to get the girls married off.

Few guys worth having need more than a welcoming smile, anyway.

Thanks, Christy. Yes, I would have booted her.

The Associated Press picked up a story, “Miley Cyrus says Vanity Fair photo spread embarrasses her,” about 15 year old Miley Cyrus, daughter of singer Billy Ray Cyrus - and, oh yeah, The Disney Channel carries her TV show, “Hannah Montana”.

It seems veteran portrait photographer Annie Leibovitz was the photographer for a photo shoot with Ms. Cyrus. According to the Wikipedia entry for Ms. Leibovitz, “Her work often has strong sexual overtones.” One photo in particular is raising eyebrows, that Vanity Fair is planning to publish in the next issue. Taken from behind, most of the back is bare, what appears to be a satin sheet is draped about Ms. Cyrus, and Miley is looking back over her shoulder.

Seductive, implying unclothed, intended to be provocative. No big deal for die-hard model shoots, photographers, and fashion magazines. They watch the ladies strip down and change between photos, they watch nekkid people, casually, on a regular basis, they are just careful about what they capture on film or digitally.

Except, we have a 15 year old girl that claims the picture is embarrassing. Her dad claims the picture isn’t ‘in good taste’, whether for business reasons (the Hannah Montana role Miley Cyrus plays is kept squeaky ‘clean’ - free of sexual innuendo) or as a father seeing his 15 year old daughter being laid out for guys of all ages to drool and fantasize about.

Why is there a question? Why is Vanity Fair allowed to print provocative, sexily posed young girls, when guys are in prison for wanting to see that kind of picture?

The Associated Press picked up the story that does not mention a concern about Vanity Fair publishing kiddie porn. Internet Service Provider Earthlink.net picked up and published the story of apparently ‘appropriate’ kiddie porn.

You are either taking sexually titillating pictures of underage girls or you aren’t. Seems simple to me. So, where is the Department of Justice and their glory hounds and career builders, um, I mean, “pornography task force?”

Come on, Vanity Fair - play fair and drop that photo.