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		<title>br: When he is respectful in public, but hateful at home</title>
		<link>http://www.itsaboutmakingbabies.com/2010/06/29/br-when-he-is-respectful-in-public-but-hateful-at-home/</link>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 29 Jun 2010 07:24:46 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Brad K</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[NML has been covering relationships on Baggage Reclaim, especially toxic relationships for quite some time. She has written books and tons of articles, and even offered advice, a time or two. Today she reminds us that questions of our partner-prospect have to be contextual &#8211; that he or she has to be well respected in [...]]]></description>
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		<title>cb: Italian baby bounty, and marriage isn&#8217;t just about feelings</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 04 Jun 2010 03:24:08 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Brad K</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Sharon at Casaubon&#8217;s Book mentions a recent CNN report about the Italian region of Lombardy offering cash to women considering an abortion &#8211; to keep the baby. I understand the issues &#8211; the Muslim religion is exerting tremendous pressure toward population growth within their community (averaging 8.1 births per couple). This pressure must destabilize any [...]]]></description>
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		<title>br: Read the fine print, then watch against changes</title>
		<link>http://www.itsaboutmakingbabies.com/2010/02/11/br-read-the-fine-print-then-watch-against-changes/</link>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 11 Feb 2010 16:29:57 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Brad K</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[NML writes about the terms and conditions of a relationship. That even if you get through the fine print at the start and don&#8217;t find any red flags, be aware that your partner&#8217;s agenda might change &#8211; and if you stay, you will be &#8220;accepting&#8221; the changes. She focuses on reading the signs and what [...]]]></description>
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		<title>br: The practice doll</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 14 Aug 2009 03:06:38 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Brad K</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[NML writes on Baggage Reclaim that ending a bad relationship often takes a lot of time for women &#8211; often because they hold on to the illusion they have made about their partner. We’re either wanting him to be the man we thought he was or trying to get him to be the man we [...]]]></description>
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		<title>br: Stumbling over broken dreams</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 05 Aug 2009 18:40:29 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Brad K</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[NML discusses Compatability, Your ‘Type’, and ‘Common’ Interests for those that find themselves in a series of bad relationships, at Baggage Reclaim. These dating buzzwords seldom accomplish much, and for those that cycle through bad relationships, they cause harm. I think one of the big reasons for the failures is that we learn what a [...]]]></description>
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		<title>br: About choosing between a partner and happiness</title>
		<link>http://www.itsaboutmakingbabies.com/2009/07/11/choosing-between-partner-n-happy/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 11 Jul 2009 15:42:19 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Brad K</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Many people seek a partner in life, someone to share a bed and hopefully an enriching love with.  When we choose someone that isn't able to commit themselves, or isn't willing to commit themselves, to a relationship with us, we face a dilemma.  If we decide we no longer want to "make it work" with someone, we may also face a problem.

Are we breaking up with a date, or holding a family together?

I think that it is this, the belief and bodily reactions that one has become a family, that perpetuates couples that have become harmful to one another.  The current practice of an extended sex life while avoiding "starting a family" - pregnancy - confuses the body and emotions with social hand waving long after our biology and culture recognize that a family has been created.]]></description>
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		<title>br: Dating &#8211; Is he controlling, or ..?</title>
		<link>http://www.itsaboutmakingbabies.com/2009/03/04/dating-is-he-cotrolling-or/</link>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Mar 2009 13:40:12 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Brad K</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[We pick controlling partners .. On Baggage Reclaim, Anastasiya comments on NML&#8217;s post about &#8220;Being The Other Woman Revisited &#8211; It’s straight talking time.&#8221; .. and I just wanted to tell you that all too often we tend to be attracted to controlling types because it is easy to mistake control for genuine care: we [...]]]></description>
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		<title>About single mothers</title>
		<link>http://www.itsaboutmakingbabies.com/2009/02/15/about-single-mothers/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sun, 15 Feb 2009 17:33:56 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Brad K</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[I haven&#8217;t read Ann Coulter&#8217;s new book &#8211;]]></description>
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		<title>Select a mate &#8211; or date? Pick one.</title>
		<link>http://www.itsaboutmakingbabies.com/2008/11/11/select-a-mate-or-date-pick-one/</link>
		<comments>http://www.itsaboutmakingbabies.com/2008/11/11/select-a-mate-or-date-pick-one/#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 11 Nov 2008 10:16:19 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Brad K</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[More and more I am coming to the conclusion that what you learn directly from a person is never sufficient. You have to allow for the considered judgment of people you respect, you have to take into account how other people in the other&#8217;s life view that person. Avoiding people that are experienced and skilled [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Hangin&#8217; in bars</title>
		<link>http://www.itsaboutmakingbabies.com/2008/10/18/hangin-in-bars/</link>
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		<pubDate>Sat, 18 Oct 2008 11:23:45 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Brad K</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[NML wrote about &#8220;Relationship Advice: Should I tell my friend that he’s emotionally unavailable?&#8221; on Baggage Reclaim. In the course of the comments, Astelle mentioned a friend. .. My friend picked up an assclown a few months ago and she won’t listen to what I say. He “dropped” a napkin with his phone number at [...]]]></description>
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