It’s About Making Babies!

According to Fred Jones, author of "Tools for Teaching", adrenaline takes 28 minutes to energize the body, then to taper off in effect and be processed out of the blood stream.

Adrenaline is produced to fuel the ‘fight or flight’ reflex.  When attacked, threatened, frustrated, or from anger, or from thoughts of anger or aggression, we encounter this 28 minute span when our emotions are skewed and our thinking is affected.  To reduce the impact of adrenaline-fueled aggression on our actions, there are two things we can do.

At the first stirring of the response, the first insult, the first time a mate or child or friend is rude — take a calming breath.  Then wait a half  hour before making any decisions.  Get off by yourself if you need to, restrict yourself to mechanical, non-emotional words or actions, or get away by yourself, but don’t think about the hurt or slight or meanness.

See, it can take several seconds to minutes for the adrenaline level to ‘peak’.  Once we start producing adrenaline we continue to do so while the ‘danger’ is present, to increase our chances of ‘getting away’ (or beating the crap out of the attacker).  When we recognize the beginning of an ‘Adrenaline Moment’ and take a calming breathe, we reassure ourselves, and we stop the production of adrenaline.  The impact will be much less.

But we will still be affected for the next 28 minutes.  So we need to control our situation, but avoid acting on the adrenaline, for half an hour.  Think calming thoughts, think of simple chores and tasks, do something mild and distracting for that time.

I understand the Eskimos have a proverb, that there is a magic to turn rocks into gold.  Stare at the rock for a full day, and never, ever, think of walrus blubber.  Just put walrus blubber completely out of your mind for that full day, because any bit of thought about the walrus and you would have to start concentrating on a new rock, on another day.  Dawn to dawn, with no thoughts of walrus.

Planning acts of aggression, punishing someone, thinking of painful encounters to come, thinking of revenge, these all can trigger production of adrenaline.  Which can affect our judgment, make us itch to put some bad idea into action.  So when anger, fear, and the disrespect of others turn on our emotional and hormonal engines, we need to turn our thoughts to simple, non-threatening things.  Something that we can focus almost all of our attention on, in a safe environment.  Something that we will give a full half hour.

Running or walking can be good.  Listen to a tape or podcast, or book on cassette, something to listen to and focus on to follow.  Popular music so often plays in the background it can be easy to disregard it, and return our thoughts to the moments that caused our anger in the first place.  Which would re-start the adrenaline cycle.  If not electronic diversion, count steps, count breaths (walking:  7 heartbeats out, hold 7 beats, breathe in for 7 beats, repeat), focus on the tension and limberness of your legs, feet, back, breathing.

Meditation is a practice of calming and ‘clearing our thoughts’ to provide at least a half-hour break in the adrenaline cycle.  Studying, shopping, visiting with friends, going to a movie.  These can be excellent ‘release valves’.

But do find a diversion, that lasts over half an hour.

And solve the problem at the end of that half hour, while your judgment and emotions are fueled by thinking and logic, not adrenaline.  No matter how many times it takes to restart that half-hour clock.

It may be that Dr. Kenneth Cooper missed the point, when his original Aerobics program research stressed that aerobic conditioning only happens after exercise persists longer than 20 minutes.  Perhaps what Dr. Cooper saw in those first 20 minutes, for the Air Force Academy students, was allowing adrenaline to finish it’s cycle, with diversion (supervised exercise) sufficient to avoid another adrenaline rush.

In the book Patriot Games, Ryan finds an emotional release in target shooting.  The need to focus on accuracy, safety, and his performance gave him a much-needed release from anxiety over attacks on his family, and anger at the attackers.  Note that this time was not spent in thoughts of revenge, of envisioning his enemies in his power.  Instead he got an emotional retreat and renewal. 

Live long, and prosper!

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Do you? Do you check every female you notice, day in and day out, assess the size and shape of her breasts, look to see if a nipple is peeking out, or is identifiable through the fabric of the lady’s blouse?

Some women throw on a shirt, grab a bucket, and head for the barn. They are more worried about slipping in muck and mud that getting their … form … appreciated.

There are those that strip for a living. They know that working the crowd within limits of the law means concealing, gradually intimating exposure, flashing, then displaying their chest and those mammary glands we call breasts. Or call by other names from pet names to vulgar references.

What worries me are the 10 year old school girls, the 20 year old college girls, and the 40 year old models and actresses. They *want* you to look at their chest and admire what you see. All too many feel their worth as adults depends on what develops.

Some guys fall for fashion, the ‘Playboy Philosophy’, and other misguided social drives, and look to see which girl or woman has the biggest breasts, the pointiest nipples, the most skin of breast and chest (’cleavage’ or ‘decolletage’ for Godess’ sake!) exposed. And women think that the bigger their chest, the more desirable they are and they should expect men to pamper them.

It works. For every girl that considers her chest a social and personal asset (beyond feeding their children from birth to age three or four), there are guys that figure having a picturesque babe on their arm improves their social and personal worth.

So do you look? Do you look to see the size and shape of the breasts, or do you look to see what the lady thinks of herself — whether she presents her breasts as enticements to sexual intimacy. Many women in the business place (except some ‘trophy’ receptionists) find that dressing in non-provocative fashion helps them with getting their work done, and getting fair evaluations of the work they do. As those of us that have practiced social recreational (non-sexual) nudity found, the smile is the feature you should look for first. If I don’t get a smile, the rest won’t matter, anyway.

For the ladies out there — please, for me — experiment. I truly prefer a lady without makeup, without a ’shaping’ garment of any kind, simple cotton underwear and sox, and workday clothes. The scent I use daily is Johnsons’s Baby Powder (Corn Starch). Don’t try to distract me from your personality. If I fall for your perfume, I will be likely to consider other women with perfume, that scent or another. If I fall for a provacative view of flesh, I will likely also be distracted by other displays of flesh. If you let me see your potential and home-partner and co-parent, I will be focused on home and baby — and may well stay that way the rest of my life.

If you think technology can mess up a community — from SPAM to pornography to computerized self-service checkouts at Wal-Mart — consider that inappropriate technology in your own life may also be destructive. Watch how you use the ‘miracle’ bra, perfume, provacative clothes, and sexually dependent view of relationships. Think more of exploring your own interests, dressing to fit your own needs so that others comfortable with that type of life can identify you. And remember — sexual provocation is critical to find a mate to make a baby. Any skills, practice, talents in that are that you possess become a threat to the rest of your life on the night you marry or make a baby.

Do you look?

Brad K.