Dating the Ex’s Friend
LisaQ asked on 20-Forty.com – “Is It Okay to Date an Ex’s Friend?” .
OK – here I go again about respect and character.
You broke up with the ex. For whatever reason. But you did pick the now-absent one.
One would assume that ‘best friends’ or good friends of the ex would find the ex to be a suitable companion. Presumably their character traits don’t conflict too badly.
So why on God’s green earth would you drink again from the same well? “Oh, the drunk I slept with last night sat on the left end of the bar, so tonight I will stick to the right end and avoid waking up with a drunk again!” Not.
Or – just maybe – you really want to stay in the Ex’s life. Maybe to prove, daily, that the ex made a mistake letting you slip away, that others do find you worth hanging on to. Oh, what a shoddy basis for a relationship. That has to be a really good handle on your new mate-prospect – one upping his friend. That has to get old after a day or three. And still leaves you encountering the ex, regularly – or costing your new Chosen One a friend, beginning to isolate the New Love from friends – does that *really* sound healthy?
Or maybe this is a sick version of playing ‘hard to get’ or ‘I am going to fake interest in someone else to make you jealous and want me back.’
Nope. I can’t see any way to better your situation, to find a life worth living. Refusing to date the ex’s friend is sheer self defense.
Well I am very different from my friends. If someone were to date one of my friends and then me, I think they would find an entirely different ball game! But then again, I wouldn’t likely date someone who is my friend’s ex. Nor have I ever dated someone who is the best friend of someone I broke up with. Perhaps this was all by sheer instinct.
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