Comments on: 2F: Dating, vs. Relationship goals http://www.itsaboutmakingbabies.com/2008/11/10/dating-v-relationship-goal/ Dating, marriage, divorce, family -- and what sex is and isn't. Sat, 13 Feb 2010 19:59:25 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Brad K http://www.itsaboutmakingbabies.com/2008/11/10/dating-v-relationship-goal/comment-page-1/#comment-14118 Brad K Tue, 11 Nov 2008 12:10:50 +0000 http://www.itsaboutmakingbabies.com/?p=459#comment-14118 Loving Annie, I dunno about talking to ex'es. It seems likely you would have to filter both his and her backgrounds, reactions, mistakes and misdeeds - and lingering resentment - to figure out what to believe and what to tone down. You might get a feel for some of the areas of conflict - but you are more likely to run into a problem we all have with relationships. We often can't explain to someone else what really bothers us. We can list examples, and most-recent incidents. But we often stop with surface resentments and never fully uncover the background, the fundamental source of our turmoil. Thanks for your thoughts! Loving Annie,

I dunno about talking to ex’es. It seems likely you would have to filter both his and her backgrounds, reactions, mistakes and misdeeds – and lingering resentment – to figure out what to believe and what to tone down. You might get a feel for some of the areas of conflict – but you are more likely to run into a problem we all have with relationships.

We often can’t explain to someone else what really bothers us. We can list examples, and most-recent incidents. But we often stop with surface resentments and never fully uncover the background, the fundamental source of our turmoil.

Thanks for your thoughts!

]]> By: Loving Annie http://www.itsaboutmakingbabies.com/2008/11/10/dating-v-relationship-goal/comment-page-1/#comment-14113 Loving Annie Tue, 11 Nov 2008 01:10:12 +0000 http://www.itsaboutmakingbabies.com/?p=459#comment-14113 90 day probabtion is a great idea. So is SLOWLY taking the time to get to know someone and not l;etting your hormonal hopes delude you... I also think being able to talk to three of their friends about them and how they treat the people they are in relationships with would be helpful - and that includes ex'es :) <abbr><em>Loving Annie’s last blog post..<a href="http://lovingforyourheart.blogspot.com/2008/11/favor-to-ask.html" rel="nofollow">A Favor to Ask</a></em></abbr> 90 day probabtion is a great idea. So is SLOWLY taking the time to get to know someone and not l;etting your hormonal hopes delude you… I also think being able to talk to three of their friends about them and how they treat the people they are in relationships with would be helpful – and that includes ex’es :)

Loving Annie’s last blog post..A Favor to Ask

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