Porn makes kids sex fiends – or ??
OneNewsNow.com is agitating for more aggressive prosecution of those that provide porn to teens. The article is “Internet porn a growing problem with children.” Their studies show that teens 12-17 that watch porn are more likely to be sexually active.
Really. Talk about the horse before the cart. How about asking something sensible and realistic? Like, what about the fact that sexually active teens are more likely to want porn? That kids with sexually active friends and inadequate family information are more likely to view sex as one-sided, a combination of recreation and social status?
I figure you want to tell kids that sex is for making babies, that dating is for finding a co-parent, and pick your dates for respect, honor, and character. Finding a mate is about building a family, not a love-nest (unless you are James Bond with a License to Kill). You want to act disciplined as parents, value character, respect, and joy over humor and provocative clothes or cosmetics. Demonstrate character for your kids, explain the reasons for dating and engaging in sexual intimacies, and your kids won’t have time for much porn or for deceitful companions.
And admit that some porn is educational. Even the harmful kind is a warning, “Don’t try this at home.” Today’s blanket condemnation assures an everlasting market for porn. Something more productive would be to identify the ‘family-friendly’ variety. And demonstrate to our kids that, as with driving a car, alcohol, rich food, late night activities, and many other activities, moderation is important. Nothing assures the ever-awakening awareness of porn and fascination with sex as the church and preacher that use the handy ‘evil’ target of sex and porn to make their mark in the world, and raise contributions. The world will *not* be running out of sex any time soon, and preachers can count on this perennial topic for keeping ‘devotion’ running high.
Instead let’s address what is really happening – most of the kids heavily into porn would be anyway, and the reason is more related to poor home life, lack of discipline, and lack of respect for partners (character) than any other reasons. Correct dysfunctional but socially acceptable families, and you increase the joy in the world, while reducing hurt, humor, and pain.
I agree 100%. While those frontal lobes are developing, parents need to supervise their kids, protect their innocence as long as possible, and teach them appropriate ways to relieve stress and connect with others in healthy ways. But Porn and teenagers? Jeez. I had never thought about this before. Sheesh!
This isn’t new. I recall the cartoon books passed around the back of the bus in 1963 in Northwest Iowa. Kids have been raiding their parent’s stashes of booze, porn, and any other indulgences since forever. In the best occurrences, the kids cover it up, walk away, and proceed as if nothing happened. Which is usually a tremendous relief to parents.
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