Dress to kill — ?
OK Girls. Imagine this. You dig through your closet, and pick a nice outfit – nice as in, ‘least likely to make Dad frown, when getting ready for church’ nice. Or, maybe ‘what I want my kid’s 2nd grade teacher to where.’ Pick something at least three times less ‘fun’ or ‘sexy’ or ‘provocative’ than your friends will be wearing. Go out for the evening with those friends, hang back, and watch the attention they gather.
What I expect will happen, is that your friends gather much more attention than you do. And, considering ‘which would I be happiest waking up with’, the little attention you gather will be more comfortable. (Please, imagine only. This kind of experience could be life altering.)
The lacy bra showing over the top and about the cleavage, the strategic slits and glitter, the ‘attack’ level scents, colognes, and perfumes – these are properly mating rituals. As in, ‘I am available to make babies with!’ And the attention you get will be pretty closely focused on coitus. The piercings and tattoos smack of culture clash. No rebel is ever really happy - wouldn’t you rather find someone you could make happy? Will he want the glaring body mods when he takes you to your kid’s school program?
Now consider ‘happily ever after’. Consider the respected handsome prince. Note the respect, the gleaming reputation, the lack of innuendo. The most provocative Prince Charming gets is a winning smile. At the first hint of smarmy behavior, disrespect, or taking you for granted, the Handsome Prince becomes the Evil Prince – a villain to be avoided.
Why should you treat any date less than royally? Your dress, your manner, and your speaking all show that you respect your date, that you are looking for a responsible adult to share your life. As long as you get the respectful and proper Prince Charming, enjoy the attention. At the first hint of smarmy behavior, disrespect – or undue attention on sex play – you have unmasked the villain. Escape if you can.
So, do you want Prince Charming, and look good in a respectful gown, or do you want to be the serving girl, getting the attention of everyone else?